[Yaya K]

husband off day, hes on the net? looking at porn. I dont care if he looks at porn but we have a laptop and he could bring a virus to it. Also he lied about it like im stupid or something. He forgot to erase it off our desk top that he saved in notepad. He lied and said it was in a zip file that he opened yeah whatever. I told him i dont care if he looks at porn but dont do it on our computer i even told him i wasnt mad. Even tho w had this talk already. Then i went to history and he erased it but for got to erase the cookie and temp files. Come to find out he was also on my space looking up his ex girlfriend no one else only her. Is this right what hs doing and would you be upset? He lied about it
then he tried to blame me for him looking at porn talking about we dont do it as much even tho we do it like twice a week

[bossdave]

If you don't care that he does it - then deal with it. It's too bad he lied, but he was probably afraid of your reaction. Talk it through. You can bet this wasn't the 1st time.

[KiMbErLy P]

WEll CONSiDERiNG YOU'VE ASKED THiS liKE 3 DiFF TiMES.....iD SAY iT WAS A BiG DEAl && TEll HiM TO BE HONEST WiTH YOU iF HE'S GOiNG TO lOOK AT PORN && iF YOU'RE PREGNANT DURR....HE CANT GET iT AS MUCH AS HE WANTS && NEEDS TO STOP BEiNG SElFiSH.....BOUT THE EX.....TEll HiM HE NEEDS TO STOP && FOCUS ON HiS CHilD GROWiNG iNSiDE OF YOU. && THAT SHE'S AN EX FOR A REASON! :|

[yakusa3000]

porn addict, crack addict, weed addict, all the same, once they are embarrased about it they will like, Give him some slack, not a lot but some.

Let him know that you apologize, See this is a funny thing, he is like a kid who got caught by mom, She walked in on him jerking off, he is embarrased MOM.

Tell him its ok, but dont lie to you about things this simple, you understand. But also, say "look baby, I know you are going to do what you do, but do it an moderation, do not let us get caught up in anything DUMB."

peace &good luck

[jsawyer29]

Sounds like he is trying to see if he still has what it takes by trying to contact his ex. The porn thing sounds obsessive also, maybe he needs therapy. Esspecially since he feels like he has to lie about it when there is no need to lie!

[so tired]

Sperm banks don't look up their ex-girlfriends. Why the hell does her care about her life when you two are having a baby together? Why the hell did he become a husband?

Caring about what is ex's life is like, is wrong. Lying to you is wrong, by deceptions or omissions. Find a man who wants to love you only.

Unless you are looking up you're ex-boyfriends on my space and are okay about lying to you husband about things. He's not the one.

[CrystalRain]

I would be mad about both and in a way it is your fault because you allow him to look at porn,porn just leads to worse behavior.It has no place in a marriage and corrupts peoples minds and makes them do stupid things don't believe me do the research!

[proud mommy :)]

I would be wicked upset. You need to sit down and talk to him about it and tell him things have to change. If they don't then you need to move on.
And believe me I have been through this with my ex boyfriend, porn can be an addiction and can lead to worse things. You need to put your foot down and now.

[dencur02]

Yes I would be upset because he was searching for his ex. There is no excuse for that.

[mySelf & I]

Ask him about it and tell him how would he feel if you are on the net watching porn and your ex's. Tell him that what he is doing is upseting you and that you don't approve of him to be doing. If he doesn't agree with you that means he might be doing something wrong. My friend always tells me that her man does watch porn when she was pregnant, but after the baby, he doesn't do it anymore. She says it is like him getting some...**********, because you are pregnant, but I still disagree with her too.